I Am a good friend
We carry inside of us a deep-rooted desire to feel loved. When we feel loved, we feel like we belong; and we feel complete and whole. Our sense of separation and aloneness starts at birth. It’s our memory of belonging to something larger than ourselves as an energetic being—as part of the Whole, the Universe, God—that drives our search for completion again.
Through our relationships, we learn about ourselves and the world around us. The other person can be a mirror in which we see ourselves reflected. This is true for all relationships, romantic and otherwise. Through connection with others, we find some of the belonging we yearn for. Some connections we make with others are based on mutual interests, similarities, and understandings, yet often, we develop deep friendships with those who are seemingly completely different from us.
The energy of Friendship supports our intrinsic desire for connection with others based on mutual affection and appreciation.
The green flower in the middle represents the heart, open to love and caring.
The red around the flower and at the core refers to the passion and warmth that is at the center of our desire to connect to others.
The Flower of Life in the background represents the physical plane on which we seek, experience, and cultivate our friendships.
The number six refers to love, harmony, and relationship, which are all key to friendship.
The water in the background refers to the emotional plane, as our desire for connection with others is based on feelings of wanting to belong.
ROMANTIC LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP
Friendship is a relationship between two people that is based on mutual affection and appreciation yet is usually not romantic (or sexual) in nature. We start developing friendships when we are children. Those connections help us learn about the world around us and how to interact with others. Through play, we learn how to agree and disagree with each other, how to show affection, how to express our feelings and opinions, and how to deal with each other’s temperaments and differences. These skills form the foundation for later relationships in life.
Our friendships are important to our inner development throughout our lives. While romantic relationships can be deeply significant to our journey, they are not always sustainable. Friendships often withstand the winds of time, sometimes lasting our whole lives—going through our ups and downs, our marriages and divorces, the birth of our children and grandchildren, our illnesses and setbacks, as well as our celebrations and successes.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
What do you appreciate the most in each of your friends? What does each of them bring into your life? Are you a good friend to others? What qualities make a good friend?
What do you think is the difference between friends and romantic partners? Do you think that romantic partners are friends plus sex?